Is your present partner your eternal partner?  Was he or she a partner in the past?  Will you have the same partner in the future?

As, when it comes to the metaphysical, there is no “time”, not in the linear sense we are accustomed to, these are tricky questions.  Given that we here on Earth maneuver our daily lives from the premise of linear time, we’ll use the terminology, and leave it up to Heaven to sort it out!

The topic of soul mates comes up again and again – with clients, in workshops, in social settings – everyone seems to have an intense interest.  It is so popular a topic, we decided to include it on a regular basis on our “Immersion into Source” healing webinar.

What does the term “soul mate” mean to you?  As your answer isn’t going to be the same as the next person’s, there is some confusion as to what we are even talking about.  I’m thinking we need some common vocabulary.  Based on what I’ve seen in both this world and the next, I’d like to propose the following (not set in stone):

• Being – someone who exists as an individual consciousness and may be physical or not, may be from any realm, known or unknown.
• Human – a Being who is now, or recently was, existing on the planet Earth – you know, a human being.
• Higher Self – the aspect of oneself that has ever and always will exist.  When we meditate here on Earth, that is who we are connecting to; ideally, we will develop a strong connection with our Higher Self during this experience, but many do not.
• Soul Mate – a Being with whom another Being or group of Beings (Soul Group) has a strong connection.
• Eternal Partner – a Being with whom one has an eternal, exclusive bond, i.e., marriage; mated for eternity.
• Experience Partner – a Being with whom one has a marriage bond for a particular experience; mated for a life-time or portion thereof.
• Twin Flames – as there seem to be multiple interpretations of this term I will not use it for this post, so as not to confuse the issue.  From what I have read of others’ take on it, it refers to one soul that split into two and incarnate together over and again.  Recently the Dalai Lama met triplets and commented that he had never before met one soul incarnated into three bodies.  Clearly this soul is not going to have a romantic relationship with the other parts of itself; there is a lot yet for us to learn!

Now that we have a common vocabulary to discuss this subject with, let’s begin!  Not the expert on all things metaphysical – who is?  who could possibly be? – I can only share what I have learned from working with my clients over the years.  Remembering that the Universe is infinite, and therefore the realms, planets, types of Beings, and variations in experiences is also infinite, all I know is that love is the basis of everything.  Healthy romantic love, as it creates a sense of well-being and security like no other, is important, yet not mandatory, or even desired by everyone.

It appears that a lot of it depends on how “old” a soul you are.  Older souls have their eternal partner, and no need of any experience partners, which does not mean that all old souls have a partner.  Some souls are born old and will never have had any experience partners, only their one eternal partner.  “Young” souls often have multiple experience partners, growing toward a readiness for an eternal partner.  Again, we run into the time issue, and, again, we’ll let Heaven sort it out.

You can have multiple partners over your (eternal) lifetime.  You can have multiple partners in an individual experience (Earth incarnation, for example).  You can marry the same partner over and again in many individual experiences.  You can marry different partners in various experiences.  You can have an eternal partner, and never need any other.  Your eternal partner may “stay home”, watching over you, while you have an experience (with or without an experience partner), guiding you, loving you, waiting for you to return.  I’ve seen where two experience partners left Earth, and together set it up so that their Earth partners met each other, to assist each other for the rest of the journey, fully expecting to be reunited when they then left Earth.  I’ve seen where an experience partner leaves, and though hoping that the partner still here will return to him, is leaving it entirely up to her, as she has a new experience partner.

Some real-life examples of real-life folks (without using their real-life names) follow.  Note:  there are no set rules; one person or couple’s process is not the standard; there are infinite means of accomplishing growth, both on one’s own and as a couple.

Remember:

Jack & Diane – I had the honor of introducing these two to each other in this life.  They have been together many times before, and are in this plane working on living together harmoniously so that, at some point, they will be no longer require any experience partners for either of them and they can graduate to being full-blown eternal partners.  They have been told that, depending on how well they do here, they will have five to seven more experiences before this will happen.  To paraphrase John Mellencamp:  Oh, yeah, life goes on, long after the living on Earth is gone.

Victoria & Albert – Married for many years, Victoria was heart-broken when Albert passed on.  Later, she met John, and while agreeing to become engaged and live together, never married him out of loyalty to Albert.  Thirty years later, he also passed on, and she was again heart-broken, so much so that a friend of hers gifted her a session with me.  In deep despair, Victoria wanted nothing better than to communicate with her partner, John.  As I began contact, the man I met was clearly not John, but Albert.  He shared that, not only had he arranged for her to meet and be with John in his absence, but that he was, in fact, her eternal partner.  Victoria was a bit puzzled, as she had assumed John would be the one she would be with once she left this earthly plane, as he had been her most recent partner.  We decided to check in with John, to see what he had to say.  He was very friendly, but confirmed Albert’s story.  And, while he loved Victoria, and thoroughly enjoyed their time together, his higher self had always known it was a “temporary” arrangement, and that he and she were experience partners.  John then went on his merry way, Albert shared his excitement and plans for when Victoria would meet him, and that was that!

Marie & Pierre – Already an older woman when we met, Marie shared with me a few times her sense of sadness at never having been married.  Part of it had to do with the extermination of much of Europe’s men during WWII, but there was more to it, and she felt she had been rather left out.  I would tell her, “Perhaps you’ll marry in Heaven”, to which she’d reply that it was impossible, people don’t marry in Heaven.  She came to visit me often after she dropped her bones, and on one of our last visits, I saw her with a male companion, with whom she was clearly in a romantic relationship with, and they were a beautiful match.  I am so happy for her!  Whether he is an eternal or experience partner, I have no idea, as I didn’t explore it at the time, but I look forward to meeting him!

Jane & Edward

William & Elizabeth –

We love to love.